The Problem
My husband has just lost his job on Wall Street. When he was in work he was impossible, living on the adrenaline of deal-making. Now he loafs around the house, sullen, full of self-pity and criticising everything the children or I do. Should I pretend to be sympathetic? Or should I tell him to suck it up and be grateful that we are not under any financial pressure? I'm not going to divorce him, because of the children, but I would like to know if Masters of the Universe ever recover.
Wife, 42
LUCY'S ANSWER
Your problem has brought on such an outpouring of bile on FT.com that I strongly urge you not to look. According to readers, you are a chilly, go-getting cow in need of therapy. Your husband has toiled hard to keep you in designer frocks and needs your support; you are a sociopath for not providing it.