Three years ago I left my job to join my wife's successful financial advisory firm. We discussed how it would work in advance, but the reality has been very different. One reason for her success is a relentless passion to do things her way, which makes me just another employee. Our home life has also changed – all decisions need to go her way or there is hell to pay. If I stay, our marriage may not last. If I leave, I'm unlikely to find a good job, which will compound our income disparity.
Accountant, male, 52
Lucy's Advice
You say you are between a rock and a hard place: if you go on working for your dictatorial wife your marriage won't survive but if you quit and land a less well-paid job the income gap between you will become excruciatingly wide.